It Takes a lot of energy to be someone you’re not…

Many of the woman that I work with frequently notice after a couching or healing session just how deeply tired they are. They aren't just tired physically, they are tired emotionally and spiritually. They are tired of thinking, behaving and acting in ways that they think are acceptable to themselves and/or to others. They are tired of wearing the masks that once seemed necessary to survive and to make it in the world.
As they drop the defenses, the expectations, the people pleasing, the suppression of certain emotions and the denial of certain desires, they start to feel how being someone else is utterly exhausting. There is a sense of relief when they give themselves permission to be more honest. As a result they start allowing more of their authentic selves to take the lead.

So how do you know if you AREN'T being yourself?
-You feel anxious most of the time. You can't seem to relax and your mind is always on.
-You feel empty. There is a chronic sense that something is missing or that you are always outside yourself.
-You think more about others needs and you either deny your own needs or are unaware that you have any needs.
-You are afraid to speak what you feel because you aren't sure what you're really feeling.
-You deny certain parts of yourself because you judge them and find them unacceptable (including your unique gifts and skills).
-You harshly criticize and doubt yourself.

And how do you know when you ARE being yourself?
-You feel a sense of inner peace and acceptance regardless of outer circumstances.
-You feel connected and fulfilled.
-You have an awareness of your needs and are able to lovingly take action to fulfill them.
-You are connected to the feelings in your body and are aware and responsible for your emotions.
-You're open and willing to allow more compassion and self forgiveness towards the parts of you that you judge or deny.
-You are connected to your inner knowing, your intuition, and you allow this to guide your actions.

Becoming more of who you are is indeed a process. There is no perfection in this process, there is only learning how to be more of yourself. Becoming more of yourself involves awareness and a willingness to listen. We usually decide to change and become more of who we really are when something internally or externally wakes us up. When we wake up to our exhaustion, our lack of fulfillment, our chronic emptiness, we become more willing to see beyond who we thought we were. When we wake up to our suffering, more light can come in and it starts to illuminate the masks, the survival strategies and the falsehood. This is when we can start to gain real access to our power, our divinity, our true selves. The light illuminates who we are not so that we can become who we are.

In my work with clients I offer private sessions and spiritual tools to help you reclaim yourself and thus make decisions that are in greater alignment with your truth.
If you are ready to grow beyond your current limitations and gain access to more self knowledge, I would be honored to work with you!